Celebrating the life I didn’t expect

For those who think they might not want kids — or for anyone who finds themselves on an unexpected or alternative life path — this is for you.

Both my personal and professional life took turns I never imagined. And yet, here I am, learning to celebrate it.

It’s only in looking back on these various areas of my life that it all makes perfect sense how I arrived here.

If you had told me when I first graduated from Chiropractic College that I’d one day be helping guide people’s lives, and integrating emotional healing with physical healing, I would have thought you didn’t know me at all.

Through some poor unconscious decisions, a great deal of serendipity, meeting amazing teachers and mentors, and what I would call, “Gods plan”, I found myself on this path to integrating both into my work and practice.

If you told me I would have met my wife I was to marry at 48, and then deciding to not have kids together, I would have also thought you were crazy.

After 13 years without a relationship, and with a very clear vision of my future that included being an older parent, the idea of a life without kids never even crossed my mind.

It’s true what they say: we make plans, and God laughs.

And yet — here we are.

For anyone finding themselves on an unexpected path in any area of life, I offer this:

Have a clear vision, but allow yourself the flexibility for the universe — or God — to participate, contribute, and even reshape that vision.

There is nothing wrong with you. This new path is you.

Look to your mistakes, your past traumas, and the things that bring you joy. Let them be guideposts rather than regrets.

Seek wise counsel from people you respect who can help illuminate the way.

Find the chutzpah within you to follow YOUR path _ then give it everything you’ve got.

Harold ~