Where you have unhealed shame or trauma, you’ll have difficulty in manifesting, as well as other related issues, so identifying these places is vital. Below is a list of prompts that might tip you off to some of those areas you might be holding on to both.

Constantly being in attack-mode, Mamba-mentality, anger & being out to prove something, in every area of your life will only get you so far & with certain kinds of results, however being able to deploy different mentalities depending upon the area of your life & the situation is vital; & that’s especially true when it comes to deep healing.

This communication isn’t just about Kobe, but about loss & grief in general. For some, they’ve experienced things in their lives where they’ve never grieved & that affects their current lives. For others, they tend to hang on too long to things & struggle with forgiving or letting go & moving forward & this shows up as well. Lastly, there are those who try & hurry through grief & don’t allow for a healthy time to process all they’ve been through ...

If we learned one thing from Kobe, it would be that he let nothing stop him from learning how to do something, even if it meant that it was going to be painful. He played through massive amounts of pain, because he was obsessed with winning & to one day be considered the best to ever play the game.

I love Kobe’s mentality when it came to this & many other things relating to Mamba-mentality…

How do we find our way after some kind of loss in our life?The quick answer is, the best way we can & know how. I was thinking about following up on my last post about the loss of #Kobe & it has me thinking about how people can move forward in a healthy way after experiencing loss like this & many other things in their lives. For me, moving forward meant that I needed to move my emotional self & not just my physical life forward…

For those looking to truly heal anything in their lives, you must be able to navigate & integrate, loss, heartbreak & the ability to learn how to let go, because loss is a fact of life & a big component to healing. And yet, for those closest to me, they’ve heard me rage at how much I sometimes hate the way life is at times. I’ve said life is heartbreaking & this is one of those moments. I don’t like the way life is set up. This is terrible.

Somatic healing is the use of physical healing techniques, with the specific intention to help you connect to deeper aspects of your body & psyche, including your emotional & energetic bodies, sexual energy, as well as past trauma. It’s become more popular than ever, because people who are open & motivated to find expeditious ways to heal, are finding that utilizing the body, instead of just relying purely on traditional therapists…

There are those people who you know that act like victims where they aren’t ones ... & yes it’s annoying AF. But here’s the thing, to stop acting like a victim where you aren’t one in your current life, you would have to acknowledge where you actually have been a victim in your past. When someone doesn’t see it or refuses to acknowledge where they’ve been a victim in the past, it makes it very difficult for them to see it…

Some people look at us & judge those aspects of ourselves & our lives that are vulnerable to us, but what they don’t realize is that their judgment says a lot more about them, than it does about us.

What they don’t realize is that the way they treat or talk about us, especially regarding our sensitivities & frailties, is exactly how…

Remember, the truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off ... & good coaching & healing will definitely do that - it might not feel good, but it’s certainly good for you.

This is certainly true for my work, especially the bodywork portion of it. I saw a new client recently & this inspiring subject came up ... I can share how Maori healing bodywork is like deep tissue massage & that it helps people to connect emotionally, so sometimes you can cry, laugh hysterically or even get really pissed off - but that doesn’t really do it justice.

No matter how much of an expert you are at something, it’s important to learn how to come from the place of being a student to someone else’s expertise & teaching. It’s also powerful to continually learn to allow yourself the feelings that come with being vulnerable when learning something difficult. I think the vulnerability that one feels when going through that beginning learning curve, causes us to be continually humbled…

Think of the question as if Im talking about an actual person you’re in a relationship with & someone asks you the same kind of question.

How would you answer it?🤔

Journal this out.

Isn’t that a disconnection issue to think that one thing doesn’t affect the other?

Justin Bieber fans, don’t kill me for talking about our boy, I’m a belieber & just want to bring to light a very important subject.

Let’s work, massage, move, adjust, provoke & challenge your muscles, fascia, joints, tendons, ligaments & listen for all the powerful intimate, emotional communications & trauma that are stored & sometimes buried in your body - that is Somatic healing/therapy. Let’s pay close attention & listen for these golden communications as they spill out of you. Forget studying a book where we can read where certain thoughts, feelings & energies are typically stored…

This line arose out of a conversation between myself & a couple of clients of mine. If you’re feeling like you’re not enough, no amount of success is going to change that. You can’t count on doing more, creating more or earning more in order to feel like you’re enough - you can’t solve an emotional issue with a physical solution.

To keep it simple, it’s the place I’m affecting when I work with people; it’s the area where our emotions are connected to the body. While doing the sort of bodywork that I practice, I was taught to work 5% more than someone can handle, because that’s where the change(magic)takes place.

Meaning, regardless of how much we try & rationalize our feelings away, our bodies store a kind of truth in how we really feel deep down inside. Rationalizations are the minds way of trying to trick the body into how to feel; the body doesn’t communicate in rationalizations, only the mind is capable of that.

For some, they’re in touch with these feelings, while for others, they’re disconnected from them or choose to suppress them.

For those of you who are connected to these feelings, are you being creative & contributing them in constructive or destructive ways?