For those of you that are new to me, allow me introduce myself & thank you for the follow.

My work doesn’t fit into a neat box. It’s not something thats common but for some it can scratch an itch that’s been nagging them for a long time despite other interventions.

For those of you who seek to take full responsibility for their lives, you’re on the road less traveled.

Most people prefer to not want to take responsibility in some way. They prefer to see themselves as being victimized by someone or something.

If defined by Webster, it would say that it’s “an alteration or movement made to achieve a desired fit, appearance or result.”

Within my work, this definition certainly fits.

If you have any sort of connection with the current pulse of popular treatments in the wellness/coaching world, you’re well aware of Ayahuasca. For those that don’t know, it’s a plant based psychedelic that helps people connect with deeper aspects of their bodies & psyche. I’ve not done it myself, but I’ve had numerous clients, friends & colleagues take part.

Instead of resolutions, every new year I have a theme. My theme for last year was to question & consider what it means to be a man.

It’s not that I’ve struggled with this question, but it became appropriate after getting engaged & heading into marriage.

If you’re someone who’s committed to transforming an aspect of your life, you must consider the body when doing it.

Even if someone is seeing a coach or therapist, people can often have difficulty making connections with certain feelings & emotions, or in connecting with many difficult experiences from their past.

Do not confuse these two, as they’re entirely different things.

I’m a very persistent person & a Taurus through & through; I’m fiercely loyal, often times stubborn & yet very persistent with the things I want to bring to fruition …

I’ve had some difficult familial stuff going on lately. On a particularly challenging day, I was feeling the dread of showing up, but maintained perspective of how vital it is to do it anyway. For all those concerned, not to worry, it’s all gonna be fine.

But it had me thinking about many other difficult moments in my past, where it’s been vital to my development, both personally & professionally, to be able to show up & communicate.

Often times, by shifting the way you’re BEING, things can change dramatically for you, without necessarily DOING anything new. Find people, including a coach or therapist, who have laser sharp feedback, so you can hear things about yourself that you never considered.

I’ve been thinking about habits lately. Specifically, replacing the ones that don’t serve my commitments & best self, with the ones that do (like my morning plunges in the cold pool).

What old habits are you wanting to trade in for healthier ones?

Don’t confuse the two.

Read on for a few examples to illustrate the difference.

⚡️Example 1: I’m accountable for my clients feelings in the work we do together, but I’m not responsible for them.

Are you like me, always feeling like you need to be productive, especially with your work?

⁣⁣For those looking for a few tips on how I navigate these feelings, here you go. ⁣⁣

Quite often, people are quick to dismiss fear & anxiety, thinking that there must be a more complicated or deeper reason for why they suffer. Sure, there might be other factors involved, however long standing fear & anxiety have a subtle yet insidious & disastrous way of affecting all kinds of functions of the body…

Are you over putting up with b.s., & absorbing needless stress because of someone else’s shame and issues? It’s not your job to shield them from their shame, at your expense. That’s not being of service to yourself & others, that’s being sacrificial, and therefore enabling others.

Despite your particular upbringing or the culture’s stigma surrounding feelings, especially if you’re a man, feelings are okay. For the sake of having a healthier mind, body & culture for that matter, we’ve got to shift our mindset when it comes to our relationship with emotions & feelings.

I previously wrote that what was going on within the p@ndemic was going to be much more about fear & less about a v!rus - that’s still my contention.This communication is less about the v!rus: how it was handled, if the va₵₵ines were effective or how the media handled us. It's about our relationship with fear & anxiety & the decisions we make, especially when it comes from a fearful place.

Maybe you’ve asked yourself this question at some point. There could be many reasons ... here’s the beginning of you figuring that out.

I’m only 50, but thus far, I’ve noticed that feeling "good" does not necessarily come as easily you might like to think.

From my vantage point, it needs to be earned & is not an entitlement.

⚡️Seek mentorship & guidance from those who have an expertise in how to navigate your specific struggle. Minimize your suffering by following someone who knows the way. Seek them out & ask them for help.

I’m pretty sure everyone has a similar viewpoint that life these days is quite the adventure. That’s probably the most optimistic word I can use to describe it considering all the upheaval.

While the nature of the adventures may vary, we never know how we’re going to feel when we’re on one - that’s what makes it an adventure.

Very rarely do I find myself in serious competition with others (mostly I’m just extremely competitive with myself).

I have a very competitive spirit, & sometimes I find myself envious of others about what they have or what they’ve accomplished; and what I’ve yet to accomplish or acquire.